Your expectations impact us both.
Helper: “Do you want to feel good or be good?”
Helper: “Agreed. When we are good, we should feel good about it. If we focus on being good, we’ll get both.”
Client: “It doesn’t sound good. It sounds like you’re going to tell me we’re not very good.”
Helper: “Well it depends. What do you expect? How good do you need to be and why?”
The point – being good, better or even great requires a standard. Being good also requires coming to terms with where you are and doing the things that will make you good.
As the saying goes, feelings make great followers but terrible leaders; feelings make great servants but terrible masters.